The Art of Moving On

Whether it is a new relationship, career or home, we all have to make choices sometime in our lifetime to step away from what we have known and move on. For me personally, it was never hard knowing when I was finished, but it was always hard to take that first step. We have all heard it, enough is enough. But when do we stop staying enough and start DOING?

Take a Breather

Trying a new endeavor may be taunting, but there's something in our spirit that moves us. Whether it is a reoccurring dream, vision, and thought, something in the universe drives us to want to make a change. Before any big disruption in your daily routine, try to take a deep breath. Take time to recognize your emotions. Are you angry? Upset? Hurt? Overwhelmed? Excited?

Know the End Goal

Know your why. Live it.

Make a List

When you write out your thoughts, feelings and goals, I have found that it begins the process of manifesting what you are looking for, needing, or wanting. If you look in on my phone, computer, in my purse, on my desk, you will find grocery lists, upcoming doctor appointments, appointments I need to make, items I want to buy, long term career and educational goals, the list goes on (literally)! When we can get out our thoughts, then organize them, we can then take the step of crossing items off, henceforth, allowing us to move on. Even if that moving on means creating a new list of ideas and desires. We are constantly evolving, our wants and needs should too.

If all else fails, try and try again

We are not all born superstars, naturally talented and perfect. We are human. We will make mistakes. We will need practice. Progress over perfect, always.

Decide what makes YOU Happy

This my friends is the one. Personally, I am constantly struggling with what makes me happy versus what makes everyone else around me happy. I grew up being a people pleaser. I grew up feeling as though no matter how nice, kind, generous, or thoughtful I was, it wasn't good enough. I grew up wanting to be the best, wanting everyone to like me. Don't get me wrong, a lot of people did, but to the expense of me not liking myself. Luckily, as I grew, matured, explored, isolated, and sought therapy, my perception about what really mattered changed. I am not saying, "Be an asshole," or "be selfish, live for yourself, forget everyone else." What I am saying is, don't lose yourself trying to please everyone else around you.

We all face decisions, daily. I tell my students every day you will have to make over a thousand choices. Those choices is what defines you. A repeated action is a habit. Form good habits early. These habits you create should bring a spark, a light, a joy to you everyday. If working out is what makes YOU happy, then go to the gym. Maybe the gym isn't your thing, but you enjoy walking; make it a habit to take a stroll in the evenings.

When I first entered college, I was told to go to nursing school and become a nurse so I would make decent money. I quickly determined that wasn't for me, I don't like the smells of doctor offices or hospitals. I didn't know much about what I wanted to really do with my life at the time, but I did know I enjoyed being active, and I always wanted to be a teacher, so I pursued a career as a physical education teacher. While in college, summer breaks, and after graduation, I had many jobs but managed to always find myself in a classroom. Many people would say, "teaching is an admirable career but teachers aren't paid enough." I didn't let what other people said deter me from following my dream and passion, to be in a classroom. If I became complacent, listened to others, and chased a paycheck, there is no doubt in my mind that I would be miserable in a career that wasn't meant for me. Choose you. Always.

Stay Positive, Work Hard, Make it Happen

Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Even when it seems impossible. Stay positive. You got this!